A Commemoration of the Victims of Flight 752 on 02.02.2020
Maurice Ravel’s Bolero was playing on 96.3 FM on my way
back from the ceremony held in Vaughan, Ontario today in keeping with the
sombre; yet, forward-looking mood that I had been experiencing upon taking in
both the sights and sounds that testified to the beauty of two loving souls
that are no longer in our midst. Back at Terrace Banquet Centre where Dr.
Eghbalian’s wife (Parisa Eghablian) and daughter (Reera) were commemorated,
there had been mention of a series of topics ranging from the importance of
keeping the memory of those who had perished on the Ukrainian plane alive to
the hardships of immigration especially for women who have to find wings to fly
from the proverbial qafas (“cage”).
There was also talk of childhood: a realm where a “pink elephant” (in reference
to Reera’s pink stuffed elephant, Elli) makes just as much sense as a “real” grey
one; a colourful phase in which the portal to all possibilities is open.
One need not have known these
beautiful souls in person to appreciate the beauty which they embodied: both
extrinsic and intrinsic, but more so the latter than the former. There was also
mention of the poignancy of the loss a beautiful woman that chimes in with
Edgar Allan Poe’s remark in “Philosophy of Composition,” which is said to have,
incidentally, influenced Ravel, where the so-called “Tomhawk man” asserts that
“the death of then a beautiful woman is unquestionably the most poetical topic
in the world,” going on to say that “equally it is beyond doubt that the lips
best suited for such topic are those of a bereaved lover.”
Everyone had been waiting to listening
to the “bereaved lover,” who has become the voice of other relatives of the
victims of that ominous flight. And speak, he did... at the very end. His
composure was admirable. He thanked those who had sponsored the event and
graphically imagined what may have transpired in the final moments of that
horrific flight. He pictured the crying of the youngest passenger Kurdieh and
the exchanges that could have taken place between a number of other doomed
passengers including Pouneh and Arash, who had gone to Iran to get married
before embarking on, what could have been, exciting and enriching adventures
together. Dr. Esmaeilion went on to compare their lack of knowledge with our
awareness of the reality on the ground: that what occurred on the flight was no
technical error, but the killing of innocent lives. He told us of how Reera had
been perplexed at how there could be people who could have no qualms about
killing another human being and in so doing, once again, there was a comparison
and contrast between the innocent world of children where the villain is a
Darth Vader whose evil aspect does not lead to the downing of a passenger plane
and our own. It was also moving to hear him express his lack of belief in an
Afterlife, believing that the very paradise that some may depict for his loved
ones in another world was very much what they had here on this planet, on this
earth.
While I am not sure whether
there is life after death, having been an avid reader of Dante’s Commedia at one point and being
fascinated, in particular, by his catabasis,
I do wonder if we could assert the absence of Afterlife with such certitude.
Nonetheless, speaking of our earthly abode, I wonder if t is better not to burn
all one’s bridges and leave the door open for an eventual return to one’s
homeland in whose bosom one has spent many a formative year and may wish to be
enwombed once again towards the very end, prior to being entombed.
Dr. Esmaeilion’s concluding
remarks were around the importance of seeking full justice; of having the black
box examined. It is important that one not forget the tragedy that befell so
many families as result of the plane crash. Yet, sadly notwithstanding the
outcome of any possible litigation or black box examination, those who have
departed have gone to that “undiscovered country from whose bourn no traveler
returns.”
The loss of so many promising
lives, including those of Parisa and Reera, has touched me and so many others.
The loss will be compounded in the event that it should be discovered that the
downing of the plane had occurred not by error but on purpose. Yet, what I have
come to see once more is that we grieve in different ways: some more in the
closed quarters and the privacy of their homes more so than others; some in
more exaggerated forms than others; some in more covert forms than others. What
is clear is that the loss of so many lives on Flight 752 has turned into a
collective grief: we are all mourning—in various degrees.
Our grief has brought us
closer to each other, hopefully, in a way that will stretch beyond the hic et nunc that we are in. As we saw
images of Parisa and Reera unfold during the ceremony, we bemoaned the loss of
a happy family life and felt for all of those who have lost their loved ones in
the plane crash.
We realize that in our world
even a grey elephant, let alone a pink one, may soon disappear without being
swallowed by a boa, in which case, it could have become the source of florid
imagination (see Antoine Saint Exupéry’s Le
Petit Prince). Yet, it is encouraged that we hold onto what is left of our
imagination which will allow us to visualize an elephant as being pink and a
rose as being green in the same fashion that James Joyce did as he recounts in A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man (1904). It is only through imagination that we
will be able to engage in a defamiliarization that will turn our currently grey
world into one which is endowed with colours and possibilities. It is also by
virtue of imagination that the Italian conductor, Arturo Toscanini could
imagine a Bolero more refined perhaps
than the one that Ravel himself had composed.
I am writing as we in North
America are still going through a uniquely palindromic day as today (02022020).
I remember having been fascinated by the palindromic, yet, otherwise ridiculous
question of “Was it a car or a cat I saw?” as a child in a way that I am no
more today. Nonetheless, I am hoping that our gathering together in such large
numbers in honour of the lost lives of the passengers on the ill-fated 752
flight on this day has marked a momentous occasion beyond its commemorative
significance.
Hamlet wishes to keep alive
his quest for revenge, as he asserts: “And spur my dull revenge,” or later on,
“O, from this time forth,/ My thoughts be bloody or be nothing worth!” (VI.vi).
It is a noble thought, especially, when so many more beyond one’s own self are
involved. Yet, let us hope that, that unlike in Hamlet, there will be no more blood baths and that sooner rather
than later, the truth will out, as painful as it may be, for one would rather
face a painful truth than a horrendous lie.